Every woman’s fertility journey is her own. Some of us know that we want children early on. Some of us, like myself, just aren’t sure when or if we will ever get pregnant and have a baby.
My fertility journey began later in life. In fact, I didn’t know it was beginning until I had my annual gynecology check-up in my late 30s.
I wasn’t trying to get pregnant, yet. But, I was working with hundreds of fertility patients each year and I wanted to have my annual gynecology check-up.
You’ll probably find some common ground here. All of the emotions that come up when you are faced with someone else telling you how you can’t become pregnant or how you can’t do something on your own time.
Deep down I knew that I always wanted to have a child, but, I couldn’t quite figure out how to do it. Honestly, I wasn’t in the right relationship with someone I wanted to have a baby with. So, time kept ticking away. And, I hadn’t found my person, yet.
When the time came at age 40, I was met with resistance from my doctors saying that there was no way I would be able to become pregnant at my age…unless I had fertility treatments.
Mind you, I did not ask for their opinion on this, I was just in for an annual checkup. In fact, I wasn’t quite ready to have a child, yet…even though I was 40.
My fertility story continued with me being single at 40 years old…and no exact plan to get pregnant.
In fact, I interviewed with a few adoption agencies in the Denver area because I figured that would be my path. And, that was exciting for me. I did a lot of research on countries that would allow a single woman to adopt a child.
After deciding to move forward with adoption, I planned to take one year to get my financial health in order. After all, I would be adopting a 5-yr-old because I wasn’t allowed (by all of the countries) to adopt a baby without being married. I planned to go to his or her country and stay for at least a month so we could form a bond with each other and me with their country. I would plan to visit each year with them.
And, at the same time, I decided that since it was the perfect time to welcome a child, I should in fact get myself in the best physical shape as well. And, just maybe I would meet my partner soon and I would be ready to get pregnant if we decided to have a baby. This would be my last chance to have my baby. And, I was really excited to adopt and was ok if a baby wasn’t in God’s plans for me.
So, basically, that is what happened. I left my adoption papers on my dining room table for a few months. My plan was to submit them once tax season passed and I was clear financially to adopt.
The crazy thing is I told the woman at the adoption agency that I would submit my papers and fees in April 2012. She laughed and said, “You’ll be pregnant by then. It happens all the time.” I laughed and said, “That’s not possible, I do not have a partner.”
A few months of cleaning up my finances, my diet, my social drinking habits, and my self-care based on what I taught my patients, I felt really good. At 40-years-old, I was in the best shape of my life. I even did a couple of off-road triathlons because I enjoyed training in my free time.
But, something was missing for me. I realized that I wanted a forever relationship and I did want a child sooner than later. Daily thoughts of having my small family would fill my head. I remember spending Thanksgiving with friends and picturing myself with a child around next year’s holidays. The adoption agency told me it would take 6-12 months to adopt an international child. I started to yearn for my child.
I met my partner in a social ski club about a week after these strong feelings occurred. I guess you can say that it was “love at first sight.” We spent pretty much every day together from that first day on the slopes.
We had an early conversation about having a baby and what that would mean for us. We talked about revisiting the conversation in six months. We just met each other yet we were both in our 40s.
I continued to follow much of my own advice regarding fertility foods, fertility herbs, fertility meditations, and fertility yoga. I was my own fertility coach.
And, as I revisited my finances and submitted my taxes in March 2012, I went skiing to celebrate my last ski season flying solo without a child. The time I planned to meet my child was the next Christmas season.
Three days later, I found out I was pregnant.
The first person I called was the woman at the adoption agency. I cried and thanked her. And, recommended that she become an intuitive or a psychic.
My dreams of adoption are still in my heart. And, when it’s the right time, I will revisit those desires of my heart.
What is your fertility journey so far? We have different experiences and desires. And, the pieces of the life puzzle constantly mold, shift, and break apart.
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